You shouldn’t have, (I really wish you didn’t)


I don’t think there really is such a thing as a bad gift.  Someone was kind enough to give me something that they thought I would like.  There are lots of people who don’t have anyone in their lives.  Just because you received a gift doesn’t mean I have to keep it forever.

One of my sisters pretends she loves a gift and keeps it for years dragging out the gift every time she sees the person.  Why pretend?  So you drag out the ceramic chicken statue out in preparation of a house visit.  Your guests see that you have a ceramic chicken proudly displayed in the middle of your coffee table and on your next birthday you get 3 more.  Fast forward 5 years and you look like a crazy ceramic chicken hoarder, how will you ever admit the truth now?  I am deeply suspicious to see my sister decked head to toe in gifts that I’ve bought her over the years.  I’ve called her out on it a few times, but she insists she likes the gifts. However, the tarnish on her silver necklace says otherwise.

My other sister likes to return un-wanted gifts.  I don’t mind this approach, however it takes more balls than I possess.  I prefer to avoid difficult conversations if possible, and trust me it is always possible.  Asking for the gift receipt doesn’t always work.  Those pesky early shoppers- the one that bought your Christmas gift in April will foil your plans every time.  What to do now that you are hopelessly outside of the store’s return policy? I guess some shops will give you a store credit, without a receipt but what to do with a credit at Ye Olde Clog Shoppe?

I take a different approach.  Previously I would hang on to the stuff, but I ended up with knickknack’s and a ton of pig and cat themed items.  I say thank you, smile a bunch and then purge it later on. Sometimes it just feels like too much stuff.  I re-gift, sell, and donate it right on out of my life!  I absolutely love getting rid of stuff, I love the feeling I get when my house feels empty, or when there is vacant space where there was previously clutter. Maybe that’s the real gift, a feng shui feeling of emptiness and space!  These are my tips:


  •  post your items of craigslist
  •  sell on facebook bidding/auction sites.  Simply search for a facebook group with your city and the words bidding/auctions.  After you join, start posting all the stuff you don’t want. I’ve sold a ton of stuff this way

Give/ Re-Gift:

  •  Re-gifting party! Get your friends together, everyone brings a wrapped gift they didn’t like.  Steal the gift games are always fun!   Your friends might not like your gift either, but with any luck they won’t leave their shitty gifts behind at the end of the night.

  •  Every once in a while I will know someone who would love a pig shaped cookie jar, or pink fleece sheets.
  • My last resort is to just donate what I have no use for.  If nothing else I get a discount on my next purchase at my favorite thrift store.  I think it’s a better option that throwing something in the garbage.
  • If all else fails I guess you could just light it all on fire.

Feeling Conflicted


Warning this is a rambley post…

For the past few months I’ve not been feeling well.  At first I blamed my lack of energy on poor will-power and laziness.  After getting my routine blood tests back, I learned that it wasn’t just laziness, something wasn’t right.  Although I don’t yet have a diagnosis, I have seen the latest results and I have a feeling it’s an auto-immune disease.


So why am I feeling so conflicted?  About 10 years ago I developed an auto-immune disease and it was the catalyst for changing my lifestyle.  It was the canary in the mine telling me that bad things we coming if I didn’t make big changes.  It was then that I changed to a gluten-free plant based diet.  I instantly felt so much better and I thought I was home-free.  So if I’m I can’t help but wonder what I’m doing wrong.  Up until a few months ago I was eating a primarily raw vegan, gluten-free, organic diet.  So, why is my immune system attacking itself?  Maybe it has nothing to do with my diet at all.

I’m seeing my family doctor, who is a traditional doctor but is open to alternative medicine.  So here’s the dilemma, take a pill and put a Band-Aid over the auto-immune disease, or pay for a naturopath and hope that there is a way to stop the progression of the disease.  Intense internet searching has shown me that this might be the way to go.  However, I met a woman a few years ago who was trying to cure the same disease naturally, she looked like death, she had no spark at all.  She was so ill, do I want to go through that?

What if I don’t ever find out what’s causing the auto-immune disease?  Will I continue to get more?  It’s a frightening thought.

As I’ve been typing this post, I came to a decision.  Whenever I’m stuck making a decision, I sit with one choice and then the other.  For example: I can’t see a naturopath and continuing with my doctor is the only option, and then flipping the scenario.  Usually I find that I have a strong feeling of regret or sadness one decision or the other.  In this case, I decided the best decision is to not choose between 2 options, but rather find a way to do both.  There is a naturopath school 2 blocks from my home.  The cost is about half of the cost of typical naturopath fees.  My extended medical coverage for naturopathic medicine is not good, but at half the price I would be able to afford the cost. I’ve never seen a naturopath, so I don’t know what I’d be in for.  Should I blog about my experience?  Is the universe interested?