I know you are instantly thinking of some sort of agency hunting down people that look a certain way. I assure you this blog is not that serious.
I’m talking about racial profiling in online dating. You see I get a lot of responses from one specific ethnicity. At first I thought it was a coincidence. In talking with friends I’ve learned that it’s some sort of stereotype driven fetish. In fact I even found a term for it: racial fetishism
fetishizing a person or culture belonging to a race that is not one’s own—therefore it involves racial stereotyping and objectifying those bodies who are stereotyped, and oftentimes their cultural practices
I have lived my entire life without knowing that I fit right into an entire sub-content’s idea of a sexy slut. Not even the type you need to take out to dinner, but pretty much an escort. I had read about this phenomena on a website called Creepy White Guys, an entire website with snippets of conversations from total psychos. Most of the posts are directed at Asian women from white guys. I was going to post a couple of examples, but they are just insane and gross. I had mentioned to a friend that I was getting a version of “Creepy Guy” and I had a new sympathy for Asian women who do online dating. Little did I know he was a Creepy White Guy! He explained he was looking for an Asian woman because she would be submissive, polite, quiet and petite because then she wouldn’t be like a white woman ie his ex-wife. I quickly referred him to the Creepy White Guy site, and he was amazed to hear that such a thing existed and that Asian women get bombarded by white guys and may not appreciate it. I also hope he learned that his stereotyped view of Asian women is fucked up.
Back to my scenario, I do respond to everyone even if it’s just to say I’m not interested, I think it’s just good manners. A few times I’ve gotten a response that my decision is based on their ethnicity when really it’s not. It’s because the entire email only spoke about my thighs and how men in my country are crazy or blind. If that’s all you got from my profile, I’m not interested. I’m not sure why this particular part of the world got this stereotype, maybe porn, or maybe Maury Povich, but it’s really annoying.
Out of curiosity I asked google what a typical white woman looked like and this is what I got:
Thanks Google for making me a phone sexing Barbie doll. Although it’s not that great for anyone else either:
Honestly there were all in the first few results.